Tag Archives: conflict

3 Steps to Keep Your Children’s Ministry Clique Free

It was during our most recent Fall Retreat weekend when I stood from a noticeable distance as I observed one 4th grade girl say to another, “No, we’re still friends with you. We just don’t want you to sit by us right now.” I knew in that moment that my sweet babies, who…

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From Judginess to Fruitfulness: When to Speak Out and When to Remain Silent

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about when, where, and how to speak out about social issues such as immigration, race, and religion in public discourse. Do I say something from the pulpit or does that make it a bully pulpit? Do I post stuff and fight the futile battle for moral high…

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The Things that Make for Peace: De-Triangulation

I heard a story this week about a school principal that made me smile. If I had kids, I might want to send them to his school just based on this one anecdote. As the new school year began, the principal let parents know from the outset: “If you have a conflict with someone from school this year, and if you come and talk to me (the principal) about it, I’m going to ask you one question: ‘What did that person say when you talked to them about this?’ If you haven’t talked to them yet, then I’m not going to talk to you until you do so.”

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The Things that Make for Peace: Saying “I’m Sorry”

I’m using my blog posts this year to explore a question that emerged from my encounter with Luke 19:42 last year: What are the things that make for peace? You can find the rest of the series here. — When I was growing up, my parents made a big deal about saying “I’m sorry” whenever they were brokering peace between one of my…

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When Ministers Behave Badly: Why Facebook Forums Will Not Determine the Future of the Movement

The other day I experienced a most disconcerting juxtaposition that left me with one very big question concerning the future of Churches of Christ. I was teaching a maymester course for ACU called BCOR: The Search for Meaning. The course is designed to help students develop philosophical and theological frameworks for interpreting narratives.…

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