Tag Archives: communications

Knock Knock

Knock knock Who’s there? The interrupting cow The interrupting cow– “MOOOOOOOO” –who? As an off-the-chart extrovert, I’m guilty of being a dreaded interrupter. Sigh. It’s so embarrassing and, at age 47, I really shouldn’t commit this sin so often. My self-consolation is that when it happens, I try to stop myself as soon Read More

I Can’t Believe I Said That! When a Shepherd Mentors

Shepherd Bob and Preacher Lynn were wired up as near opposites. I have trouble keeping up with my keys, and uber-organized Bob called this a character flaw, while I accused Bob of thinking in rigid, boring columns. I like stories. He likes facts. He was left-brained: cerebral and analytical. I tend toward right-brained: Read More

Word Problems

Traditionally, in math class, the word problems are tougher to solve. I’d say that holds true everywhere, not just in math class. On Sunday mornings this summer I’m co-teaching a class called Difficult Conversations. We are using James 3 as our anchor passage. Last Sunday someone in class asked, “If I hear from Read More

Negativity Bias, Charitable Interactions, and Learning to See the Best in Others

Have you had any negative interactions with people lately? Have you had any encounters in which you were less than charitable? I have. My name is Matthew Dowling, I am a preaching minister, and I have had less-than-charitable interactions with people. In fact, last week I had several interactions which inspired this post. Read More

Gratitude as a Leadership Practice

I’ve been reading a new book on interpersonal communication. [1] I found it surprising that the authors, Quentin Schultze and Diane Badzinski, begin the book with a chapter on gratitude. Why gratitude? Schultze and Badzinski argue that communication emerges out of our character, and our character is forged by our attitude toward God Read More

Unlock the Magic of “I Don’t Know”

Growing up, I remember hearing that the three hardest words to say are “I love you.” Looking back, I’m pretty sure that’s just a plot device used by 1990s romantic comedy screenwriters to create dramatic tension where there wasn’t any. Recently, I was listening to a Freakonomics podcast making a pretty convincing case Read More